WELCOME TO THE PAGE ON PERSONAL COACHING
So many things out there that pass for personal coaching are not true coaching at all. On this page I will explain personal coaching from time to time and the services I offer.
BENEFITS OF PERSONAL COACHING
Former Texas Tech University football coach, Spike Dykes, used to describe many of the team's loses using the simple phrase, "We shot ourselves in the foot." Sometimes they had multiple gunshot wounds. I often do the same in my own personal and business life. I'll bet if you came forth with honesty you might painfully admit you too posses the same frustrating problem. Most of the time we pummel ourselves crying out, "Why did we do that?" Truthfully, we don't really know why. We develop years of bad habits to the point we are no longer aware of their nasty roots growing in the deep soil of our soul-our sub- conscience. Struggle as we may to find answers we seem to return to our gun, pulling the trigger and once again, sabotaging our life.
That's where personal coaching runs to the rescue. By personal coaching I do not mean counseling or personal instruction. Many people who call themselves coaches out there are not coaches and have no clue about good coaching that can highly impact a person's life. Oh they give good advice alright. And they may personally walk one through an issue while, at the same time, giving them great techniques to handle their difficulties. Problem is, the client usually ends up with the same bad habits never really realizing their own full potential.
Coaching operates off the presupposition that the answers lie within each of us. We are simply not aware of the fact. The coach intently listens. I mean really listens, on a level that most people do not know about. His purpose is not to instruct, but to draw the solutions out of the client himself. The client holds the power. When given the power in the proper coaching relationship the client, with the help of a coach's open ended questions, goes within. Slowly, yet surely, the answers emerge from the client's soul and solutions begin to evolve. It is indeed a very powerful process. An old saying goes like this: "If you do not go within, you will go without." That's when the foot gets shot.
As a member of the John Maxwell team I have been mentored by the very best coach in the business-Christian Simpson. He's even challenged me and my thinking patterns, helping me to think about my calling and future in a different way.
Furthermore, I have witnessed a coaching experience turn many a personal business around. I'm talking $$$ here. In each scenario the coach helped the client discover the answers to their trigger finger within themselves.
When I trained with the John Maxwell Team Christian Simpson brought a young lady on stage in front of 1,000 people and coached her into juggling. The girl had never juggled before. How did he do it? He helped her go within. Simpson never uttered one word of advice or juggling instructions. He simply succeeded by asking her questions. It was a mind boggling experience for most of us. That my friends, is true coaching.
Next week we will look at some coaching questions that I hope will allow you to begin thinking differently about you, your business, and your actions.
DYNAMICS OF PERSONAL COACHING
In the above article I offered an explanation of a powerful personal growth tool called COACHING. I said that personal coaching gives the client the power in the relationship to search within, discover the answer for himself and thus, grow to a whole new level. Christian Simpson declared "If a persona fails to go within they will go without." It's so true. Who we are in our subconscious emerges in our daily living. And a legion of individuals often privately fear what they see when facing the proverbial mirror.
Personal coaching uses NO judgmentalism, but simple observation based upon his own intuition and the client's feedback to powerful open ended questions that challenge the client to think deeply about his feelings, actions and possible alternatives.
Below I present a simple, yet, productive tool for introducing you the reader to an example of strategic personal coaching.
- As we begin I often ask the client to tell me about their future.
- Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
- I want you to place yourself 10 years in the future. What is your age right now? OK, so in your mind, I want you to see yourself as _________
- Your whole world is 10 years different. Your family is ten years different. Your life situation is ten years different. Your wife/husband is 10 years older. Your children are 10 years older. (Yes, I use older here, because it is not as personal.)
- You know it was 10 years ago that you and I first started talking about a how you were going to live your life. Ten years ago, in 2015, you were (whatever age they are now) and you had challenges and desires, and goals. You wanted so many things for your life, ten years ago. But now you have achieved all the goals you had. You have become an incredibly effective and successful person. You are happy and fulfilled. You are a fully grown tree. Can you name some of the accomplishments you have achieved?
- So, since you are now (their future age) I have a couple of questions. Can you tell me about your history? I want to hear about the last ten years of your life. What did you do ten years ago that got you all this success? Let's start at 10 years ago... What decision did you make 10 years ago that got you off on the right foot?
And, so the questions go forward starting with the end in mind and then looking back on the what got that person to where they want to be or are in this future look at their lives. Often those who create mapping software work backwards from the destination to the origin.