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LESSONS FROM MY FATHER
Funny how when growing up we fail to appreciate the gifts all around us. Fortunately, I knew as a child that my family loved me and desired the very best for us. I did not, however, realize their greatness until long after I had children of my own.
During my teen years our lives took a very drastic hit. After 21 years in the television business my father lost his job. And, if losing a job wasn't enough, he lost it at Christmas time, adding insult to injury. I never really understood the implications of this major blow until a few years ago. When I recommitted myself to discipline and spiritual enrichment, I reflected on our family's struggle and my father's virtuous response. I watched him drastically change. His character grew. So did his new endeavor-selling insurance. Here are some mind muscle pumping lesson I learned from my father:
My dad never lost his cool. He continued to treat everyone with respect, even those who fired him. Our integrity attracts us to others. When they see they can trust us we mutually add value to each other's lives
My father placed scripture in his mind at all times. He rose at 5:00 a.m. to began with Bible reading, meditation, and prayer. It's a proven fact that what we think about becomes a living reality. We act out our thoughts. Remember, Jesus said that whatever we whisper will be shouted out on the roof tops. Last year in my mother's stash of books I picked up my dad's old edition of Norman Vincent Peale's POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING. The pages were well worn and marked. No wonder he failed to surrender to the mind gremlins. He shut them out with positive thoughts.
My dad lived through terrible circumstances early in his life. He survived the depression, WWII Submarine Service, an imprisoned father who was sent to Huntsville during the 1930's-my dad's teen years. (by the way, my granddad was pardoned in 1952) My dad also survived a devastating tornado that hit Collin County, Texas in 1927. Something about his tragic past steeled him. He faced adversity later in life with confidence and aplomb.
In fact, one ought to develop a theology history. I mean examine your past through spiritual eyes. Moses offers us an example. When the Hebrews were about to take the promised land Moses told them to always remember the ways in which God provided for them and defeated their enemies.
Indeed if we take care of our mind, feed it like we would a garden, it will produce amazing fruit.
The great entrepreneur Richard Branson once opined:
Opportunity favours the bold – this is a lesson that I learned early on, and have used to guide the Virgin story. If somebody offers you an amazing opportunity but you are not sure you can do it, say yes – then learn how to do it later.
I'm discovering opportunity mirrors some of my old seminary classes. I took from one of the finest scholars, despite his infamous reputation as a ruthless, dictator of a teacher. He used the old Socratic method. Often made me so nervous I thought I had to leave the room.
I did not comprehend at first how difficult the challenge from this prof.would be. I simply jumped in-said "yes." Then started swimming. You know what? I did not drown. In fact, I aced his second course. The first one I made a B.
So, when opportunity heads our way we must seize it and jump in with passion. The "A's" and "B's will come.
Lately, while on this mountain climbing adventure to significance, I've habitually started listening to Christian Simpson. He leads the way in personal coaching. He loves to talk about cause and effect. I'm quickly learning from him that if we desire a change in our effects-outcomes we must deal with the cause.
I don't like dealing with causes. They always point the accusing finger my way. They get in my face. Most people hate self reflection. That's why they stone the prophets. A prophetic word reaches deep into us. Gets to our subconscious; the very root of who we are and why we behave the way we do.
Here are some things I suggest a person do to change the effects:
See you on up the mountain of significance as we climb that mountain together.
While I'm on this new journey of consulting/coaching I'm finding I must continually invest time, thoughts, energy, and emotion. The more I get involved the steeper the mount gets when I climb it.
My mentor John Maxwell offers a few words of wisdom on the matter:
For everything you gain, you must give up something. This is important to remember. Each choice you make will require the sacrifice of something else. I always try to say no to the good so I can say yes to the best. To reach your full potential in any facet of your life—friendships, marriage, parenting, career, hobbies—you must be willing to pay a price. Define the things you want most and then determine what you are willing to sacrifice in time, money, opportunities and relationships in order to achieve them. You’ll be more at peace with your decisions if you have this frank conversation with yourself in advance.