JEFFREY TAYLOR COACHING/CONSULTING
JEFFREY TAYLOR COACHING/CONSULTING
If you are like me you often feel alone, stuck, and simply frustrated in your business endeavors. Sometimes the problem also translates over to the family and relationships. When this happens it can really throw us off our game. At times I feel a sense of deep despair over these matters. Often my salvation emerges through small group involvement.
As a minister I discovered the power of intimate small groups. The founder of the Methodist Church John Wesley, made sure his new converts enrolled in a strict accountability group called a SOCIETY. He even required enrollees to present a ticket. If they did not follow appropriate protocol he kicked them out.
Now I'm not here to preach or convert. That's not what I do as a Maxwell team member. I simply offered some early history to the concept of what many now call The Master Mind group. Author Napoleon Hill, promoted the idea in his classic THINK AND GROW RICH. Concerning the Master Mind Hill opines:
The "Master Mind" may be defined as: "Coordination of knowledge and effort, in a spirit of harmony, between two or more people for the attainment of a definite purpose."
The John Maxwell team offers the MMG as a the core of their efforts to add value to others. His groups share struggles, learn to listen intently, and become a confidentail sounding board. Maxwell bases the structure on the philosophy that leaders are made daily and not in a day. He also exclaims, "Teamwork makes the dream work!"
Every Master Mind group I have led or been a part of has been phenomenal in adding value to other leaders. The collective mind stretches us, challenges us to think on a much higher level, and sometimes offers us a painful mirror.
I hope as you consider your growth plans for the coming years that you will sense an urgency of the need to get deeply involved in master mind thinking. Take it from one who has experienced this phenomenon either through Wesleyan influence as a pastor for 34 years, or a member of the Maxwell team, you will not regret it.
Have a great Thanksgiving week.
Since I'm using crude video methods now you may need to open the full screen on the video to see the entire picture. I'm going to work with a professional photographer soon. Enjoy the video.
After 33 years as a pastor in the Unite Methodist Church I'm beginning to launch out in other areas particularly the John Maxwell Team. I'm experiencing what many of my church members experience everyday in trying to make a living. I now deeply possess a greater appreciation for those who make this country work. Hat's off to every man and woman who stick their nose to the grindstone and never complain.
Has anyone ever treated you wrong, disrespected you, bullied you, or slammed the door in your face? I know I still get those sorts of treatments from time to time even today as an older adult. Sometimes I perceive other's mistreat me when in reality I'm simply offering up a knee-jerk reaction to what might fall on my plate this week or what fell on it last week. Nevertheless, perceived or real injustice hurts often, cuts deeply, and wounds the human spirit.
Yet, the real essence of the whole episode lies not in what others do to us, but how we respond to them. Revenge feels deeply satisfying in our soul as we contemplate getting back at the other fella. Punching them in the nose, putting them in a headlock (you can easily tell I'm a baby-boomer by the old fashioned methods I would use) sure makes me smile while I sit in my easy chair, drink coffee, and read a good novel. Still, my heart informs me that revenge is dangerous and disastrous.
At the heart of revenge lies anger, bitterness, and unforgiveness. Those nefarious attitudes destroy not the bully, but the victim. They poison our very life and hold us back from leadership potential thus, blocking our creator's purpose for us to add value to others. Plus, vengeful dispositions follow the victim wherever they may go. One can run, but they cannot hide from themselves.
Let me tell you a brief story about constructive, redemptive revenge. Texas Tech University fired head football coach Mike Leach right at the peak of his career. They refused to let him coach his bowl game, thus negating his $$$bonus. Tech fans were furious. He was the most popular coach in Texas Tech football history. Many believe the issue revolved around politics, power struggles and egos. I will not speculate further. Leach field a lawsuit against the university to collect his bowl money. He lost.
Fast forward to now. Leach coaches the Pac 12 Washington State Cougars. For years they have been an embarrassment to the conference. Other teams habitually taunt them prior to games. Leach doesn't quite mind. In his quirky dry humored, non emotional response he simply exudes a confident patience.
This year the WS Cougars are bowl eligible and a distant contender for the Pac 12 title. Let the reader and fans beware. Leach has gotten his sweet revenge with an exclamation mark! What did he do? He bred success in a laughingstock team.
You see, nothing scores revenge on others like success. It shuts the mouths of critics and gives the victor a deep seated, soul abiding peace. There is no peace in vindictiveness. Success, however, transforms, disciplines, and matures a person. Demonstrates his leadership capabilities.
So, the next time you seek the false pleasure of revenge, use that wasted energy on success. Sooner or later you may be able to declare with us Leach fans, "Ah, the sweet smell of revenge through creative success."
IT'S A GROWING PROCESS SO I CHANGE A LOT
Do you know that everything rises and falls on leadership. Therefore, I sense a calling to develop leaders through teaching, speaking, and coaching, so that leaders can add value to other’s lives and in doing so, add significance to their own lives.
MANAGE YOUR TIME TO MAXIMIZE YOU MIND
We talk an awful lot about filling our minds with positive thinking. And, we spend a great deal of our day juggling the hours God gave us. We definitely recognize the old saying, "Garbage in-garbage out." Furthermore, we only have 24 hours each day to perform what seems like 30 hours of significant duties. But, I wonder if we ever put positive thinking and time management in the same bed. Like siamese twins the two share a life giving, productive system. Let me explain.
If you think like me you panic over the business activities that will only get done when you rise, swiftly stand up out of bed, and grab your coffee on the run. You get the picture. The jittery salesperson jumps in the car straight from the bed (well puts on enough clothes to stay out of jail) then begins the phone calls while tucking in the shirt or putting on the makeup. Enough of this kind of hurried living will eventually burn a person out and mean burn 'em to a crisp.
When we fail to take care of this precious gift called time our thinking muscle eventually gets really flabby, to the point that it droops into a useless organ.
I know this from experience. The days in my life where I had plenty of time on my hands I got very little useful work done. I became lazy. Time and lack of discipline were synonyms for me. I did not, however recognize this connection at all. That is, until my world started spiraling down. I found myself in a hole that I dug with my own negative thinking shovel. When a person's life begins to fall apart, often they do not become aware of the fact until tragedy hits. After losing a son, my father-in-law, and my mother all close together, I found out who I really was. Tragedy ferociously reveals that to us. It possesses a way of putting up a house of mirrors that we walk into with each step.
A few years later, after living out daily dramas in my life, I confronted my use of time. What I witnessed staggered me. I morphed into the monster salesperson I described above. I knew the first step toward level ground must come through the way I think and the time I allowed for building the old mind muscle up. I was out of thinking shape and it showed.
I dug through my old leadership files and discovered executive mentor Bobb Biehl's WEEKLY WORKSHEET. I think these worksheets are out of print. Thank God I still had a few dusty copies in my files. I began once again to diligently use those worksheets each week. The transformation astounded me. Not only did I set positive thinking/reading as a priority, I also discovered I got 3 times as much work done than I used to. Wow! Just like magic.
You see, those worksheets did not carry any magic dust. They simply held me accountable. Writing time down holds us accountable. Now when I write my priorities down, at the end of the day, if I missed something I feel a bit disturbed. I did not do my best. Those worksheets have eyes-I'm telling you.
If you find that your mind muscle droops a bit, it may come from poor time management. You simply do not manage your time well enough to prioritize mind muscle pumping. And, later on if one becomes tired of the discipline they must forge ahead. Because, initial goose bump feelings fade. John Wesley, the founder of the Methodist Church, may offer us some insight at this point. He told his ministers to, "Preach faith until you have it. Then, because you have it you will preach it." He uttered these words long before modern psychology discovered mind power. So, in Wesley's words, " Make time to exercise the mind muscle until it gets strong. Then because it's strong you will sense an urgency to exercise it."
LESSONS I HAVE LEARNED FROM OUR VETERANS
Today we celebrate the powerful spirit of our veterans. Most of them gave blood, sweat, and tears, on levels that ordinary citizens never dream of. Today, as a celebration for our veterans, I want to briefly share some lesson instilled in me through observing their demeanor and character.
Many of our war veterans knew the importance of tenacity. Hang on until the victory comes. We may not serve in the armed forces, but we battle our own gremlins everyday in the work force. In Winston Churchill's words, "Never, never, never, give up. The mind gremlins win the battle only if we surrender.
I Gotta Do It
My father, a WWII veteran, said he did his job in war because had to. He knew the consequences of falling down on the job-terrible, merciless, defeat. Those in the civilian world who are winners do what they must do to win. If they fall down they get back up, EXAMINE their failures, learn from the examination, move forward.
Never Fall Asleep At The Guard Post
If you fall asleep at the guard post you put your buddies in grave danger and you could be hanged in the old days. Never fall asleep in your work or duties to you family. You have a team of people relying on you. Ever watch a football game where one penalty can ruin a team's chances for winning. Oh brother, I've seen a boatload of games lost because a lineman jumped the gun, or a receiver fell asleep while running his pass pattern and failed to catch a winning touchdown pass. Yes, stay alert at all times. Life's gremlins and enemies want to catch you sleeping.
KNOW YOUR PURPOSE
Most military operations serve a purpose and their soldiers define that purpose. For WWII veterans the purpose was to eradicate a ruthless dictator and Japanese imperialism. A sense of urgency trailed the purpose. "Do it now. Before it's too late," was the battle cry of the allies. Do you know your purpose in life? Do you have a battle cry? Without a purpose or a vision the people perish or get cut off from their life source. They may look physically alive, yet they experience a soul death. They wake up each day simply to get through to the next day. Finally comes the party hardy weekend where hangovers abound and emptiness depresses.
STRIVE FOR SIGNIFICANCE
Quit living from day to day and do something for others that offers significance. My father felt a sense of significance following the war because he laid it all the line for the freedom of a whole nation. Wow! Pretty significant stuff.
Many soldiers went right back to the front lines following a serious injury. They did it while in pain. Why? Their feeling of significance over-road their physical pain. So many of us live a charmed existence today. We cannot voluntarily tolerate pain. We love our cell phones, Twitter, and Facebook more than we love the discomfort it takes to help someone in need. True success does not come without pain; pain in learning; pain in sacrifice; pain with rejection from the herd.
Yes, our Vets can teach us so much about ourselves and life in general. Most of them came home, did their business, and forgot the horrible images of war. If we desire success we ought to, in the same way as our veterans, put our nose to the grindstone, commit ourselves to success unconditionally, forget the painful past experiences of our life.